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1. Make sure the hospital staff knows he is deployed, they can make sure there is a spot for the laptop for Skype if they allow that. (I had to sign a paper for the video and they made sure my bed table was cleaned off and have my laptop charged up. But he was on the plane when I was in labor/pushing soooo I didn't use it anyway.)
2. Please don't do it alone. Fly in a family member or go to them, you can be in labor for a long time and sitting in a hospital alone is boarding. My sister was with me and kept me laughing (yes even thought some contractions)
3. If at all possible ask someone to stay with you though the night and day while your in the hospital. I didn't even think about this and I really wish someone stayed with me. This one I can't stress enough. I didn't have anyone the first night and I was so tired and I kept falling asleep holding the baby. Which being a brand new mom is scary and if a nurse walks in while your asleep with the baby like that they can take them to the nursery. Being the only one in the room or awake with her was sad and lonely and walking around to soothe her was painful. Going to the bathroom was so hard because there is so much you have to do and your already moving slow and having a crying baby in the carrier in the next room is stressful. And there is sits baths that help with recovery but I couldn't take one because I was alone. I didn't ask for nurses to watch her or to take her to the nursery because I didn't want them to take her. I know even if the name plate says breastfeeding only they can and a lot of times gives formula while in the nursery and I really didn't want that.
This is all I can think of right now but if anyone else has advice feel free to comment. I hope this helps some
if you are breastfeeding, tricare must now provide a pump. HOWEVER, it can be manual. they also may have stipulations, but tricare itself hasnt released anything on this that i can find. I hope that this makes a difference for breastfeeding moms! we will see, hopefully in the near future, what they are really providing.