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Can anyone please convince me that it is a good idea? I'm scared that it might be too much of a risk since I just moved here in the US and he's the only one I've got and i honestly don't feel comfortable even with the thought of my husband living for military.
Is it worth the risk? Mommies, please your opinion are much needed. Thank you!
We recently went into a recruiting station because he wants to re-enlist (he's prior service idk what exactly though?) in the ARMY Reserves until after our daughter is born in Jan. 2017(I'm 18+4) and then go active duty, while talking to recruiter they looked up his information while there and said that they had no record of him having ever been anything other than Army National Guard and some sort of discrepancy with his claimed rank and actual recorded rank(which was like 2 ranks lower than what he claims?)
I'm so confused because when we met he told me he used to be a Sargeant(spelling anyone?? Rank?) in the ARMY(not National Guard), did 2 tours overseas in the Iraq area, said he got shot while wearing vest 3 times during one tour, has undiagnosed PTSD[he hit me in stomach during a supposed nightmare ,and has been his excuse for not sleeping in bed with me since he moved in with me 5 months ago](but is trying to re-enlist???) is it possible the recruiters computer was wrong about his rank/service history?
Prior service family members are quite sure he has been lying/is lying to me from the beginning but idk how to know for myself. Is there anyway to get/see records to know if he is telling the truth? He won't show copy of discharge or any other documentation...claims his wife has it (yup his WIFE, didn't know about her until 3 months in, he says they're legally seperated but can't show legal documents for that either?) and he says it'll cost him a ALOT of money to get copies of his records(DD214? I think is its name?)...
Sorry for the long post/rant. I'm just extremely confused and hurt by the dishonesty to the point I am questioning EVERYTHING that I have ever been told by him... Can anyone tell me if anything he has said/done sound legit or did he just lie and talk himself up when we first met to try and impress me?